What Is Bullying?
Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior that is intentional, hurtful, (physical and psychological), and/or threatening and persistent (repeated). There is an imbalance of strength (power and dominance).
The above definition includes the following criteria that will help you determine if a student is being bullied:
- The mistreatment must be intentional.
- The mistreatment must be hurtful (physical or psychological).
- The mistreatment is threatening. The individual fears harms. Fear their safety.
- The mistreatment must occur more than once. However, some disagree with this. They say one very hurtful event is enough to label it bullying.
- There must be a power imbalance.
What Does Bullying Look Like?
Direct Bullying Behaviors
- Hitting, slapping, elbowing, shouldering (slamming someone with your shoulder)
- Shoving in a hurtful or embarrassing way
- Taking, stealing, damaging or defacing belongings or other property
- Flushing someone’s head in the toilet
- Cramming someone into his or her locker
- Attacking with spit wads or food
- Insulting remarks and put-downs
- Repeated teasing
- Racist remarks or other harassment
- Threats and intimidation
- Whispering behind someone’s back
Indirect Bullying Behaviors
- Destroying and manipulating relationships (turning your best friend against you)
- Destroying status within a peer group
- Destroying reputations
- Humiliation and embarrassment
- Gossiping, spreading nasty and malicious rumors and lies about someone
- Hurtful graffiti
- Excluding someone from a group (social rejection or isolation)
- Stealing boyfriends or girlfriends to hurt someone
- Negative body language (facial expressions, turning your back to someone)
- Threatening gestures, taunting, pestering, insulting remarks and gestures
- Glares and dirty looks, nasty jokes, notes passed around, anonymous notes
- Hate petitions (promising to hate someone)
Other Bullying Behaviors
- Cyber bullying: negative text messages on cell phones, e-mail, or voice-mail messages, Web pages, and so on Direct and indirect forms of bullying often occur together. All of these behaviors can be interrelated.
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